I always compare myself to other people. I always have; I can't help it. It seems like everyone around me, wherever I am, has their life completely together and, well, perfect. Perfect wives and mommies, perfect homes and yards, perfect kids, perfect everything. And I am, by no stretch of the imagination, anywhere near perfect in any aspect of my life. I need to just stop comparing myself to everyone else; I don't know what other people have going on in their lives that they struggle with. I just know my own struggles and challenges and shortcomings. Its just that I can't help it. I look at my 2 1/2 month post-partum body and compare my challenges of getting back into shape to the woman who two weeks after having a baby looks like she's never ever EVER had one. Or I look at my house that for the life of me, I can't get spotless and compare it to the perfect home without an ounce of clutter or dust. Or I see families around with their perfect kids who look perfectly put together and are reverent all through church and wonder how it is even possible. Or how that one lady over there always looks so polished and, well perfect, and half the time I am in sweats and don't even manage a shower until after Malo gets home from work (and that doesn't even always happen). Or I see the wives who have a gourmet perfect dinner on the table when their husbands get home from work - complete with candles and romance and their families all sit perfectly and no food is thrown on the ground or spit out with the exclamation of "mommy that's yucky!"
Yes, it seems as if everyone around me has everything together all the time, and I fall short. But really, why should I care??? I am happy. I have 3 of the most wonderful children around. I am married to my favorite person in the whole world, who also happens to be super cute and very sexy. ;) So what if every single day of my life I am picking up toys and kids books in every room, it shows my children have imaginations and play and have books to read to foster learning. So what if I have to clean up the food Mia has thrown on the floor because she's "all done," it means we have food to eat and enough of it. Who cares if we have balls strewn about the yard that we have to pick up everyday and bikes and sand from the sandbox and grass that needs mowing - that means our kids are healthy and strong and active.
Really, I'm just rambling. I have a good life, a happy life. Even if I don't look like I have anything in life pulled together or polished, I have kids who love me and make me smile and laugh on a daily basis, a husband who thinks i'm great even if we have nachos for dinner 3 times in one week or I am still in yesterday's clothes and will dance around the kitchen with me and play with our kids like only a dad can. I have a home to live in, I have food to eat. I have a testimony that my Heavenly Father and my Savior know me and love me. I have the best mom on earth, amazing extended family. I have awesome friends, new and old. So maybe I'm not perfect, maybe no one will ever look at me and be like "wow, she has it all together. wish i could be like her." but that's ok! Because I am trying my hardest and the best thing is I have SO much room for improvement that I'll always feel like I'm moving up! hee hee! That's all. Bye!
5 comments:
Yvonne, I don't know where these perfect moms are you see.... as I sure would like to meet them and ask how they do it. Maybe there are 3 clones that you just don't see. :) I think we all feel like we could change the outward apperance we feel we have. But remember, you do the best you can and you have 3 beautiful kids and a husband who loves you just the way you are. Their are definitely things I wish I could do more/change. You are not alone.
:) Kenalyn
YOU ARE PERFECT!! You're the perfect you and we (me at least) wouldn't want it any other way! Love ya:)
I love you, and I look at you and think all the time, "How in the world does Yvonne do it?" You are amazing. I have the same problem; I compare myself all the time, and I fall very short!
Wow. I thought I was the only one. I sure wish I looked like a super model right after I had a baby... in fact I have a picture of my in college when I had (what I think now) a "smokin hot body" so that I can feel motivated to lose the weight. And all it really does is make me feel a little depressed because I can never seem to find the time to work on that perfect body.
It's funny you posted about this because I have thought about you and your cute little family and thought how amazing you are for having 3 kids so close in age. You seem to have it all together while still being so busy. You watched my kids, for cryin' out loud, right after you had Isaac! You're my hero! (just so you know :)
You can compare yourself to me - I showered for the first time today since Monday. My son doesn't listen to a word I say and beats up his little sisters. My daughter thinks it's funny to hit and bite. My house does not currently have one room that is clean. I haven't made my bed in a few months. My car looks like someone went to every fast food joint in the country and kept their trash in there. I've been going to the gym for a month and have gained weight. My baby spits up so much that its not worth getting dressed because she and I will be soaked in minutes. Need I say more? I've got lists full. Having you in my life helps me feel better though. I know you know EXACTLY how I feel about everything. Our kids are so close in age - all of them. I know we'll make it through this stage of our lives, though. Less hair, chubby bods, and imperfect meals, but we'll make it. Then we can help others who are as crazy as we are. Chin up. Tomorrow is another day (to pick up toys, make "yummy" food, and wear sweats)!!
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