Thursday, February 28, 2008

Its officially official!



ITS FINALLY OFFICIAL!!! We had Aspen's adoption hearing today at the courthouse and she is now officially and legally our daughter. She has been our daughter from the moment she was born, but now we've got the little paper that says so! I was a little nervous going in there, but it was such a special time. The judge was so nice and happy to be having a "happy family day" putting a family together instead of the opposite. She was really nice.




So the first thing we did was the judge swore us in and then Malo took the stand and our attorney asked him a series of questions starting with things like his name, address, age, if we're married, when we got married, when Aspen was born and when she was placed in our home. Then she asked other questions like "Do you love Aspen?" and if we wanted to adopt her, if she's acclimated to our family. She asked him if he was mentally and physically able to provide for Aspen, if he would educate her and do all the things a father should for his daughter. She asked several questions like this and then ended with asking him if it was in Aspen's best interest to be adopted into our family and why. Malo said "Yes, because we are the best parents for her." He makes me laugh. He is so straightforward and to the point. That's what he was thinking and so that's what he said. I sure love him and I fell a little more in love with him today, watching him on the stand testifying that he loves our baby girl and that he will continue to love and care for her.




Then it was my turn to take the stand and they didn't ask me the first questions. They asked my name, address and age and if I was married to Malo. They asked who all lives in our home and if we have any other children (to which i looked at my rapidly expanding belly and answered "not quite.") Then they started with "Is Aspen the child whom you wish you adopt" and I said yes, then they asked "Do you love Aspen?" And then the waterworks started. I answered "Absolutely" and couldn't stop crying. The judge and the court clerk both said "awwww" but I was embarrassed. And when I was asked the question if I would give her the love a mother should, I just bawled and said of course. I looked down at my beautiful baby girl sitting on her daddy's lap and felt like the most blessed person in the world to have them both in my life. When they came to the question of why it was in Aspen's best interest to be in our family, I rambled on and on (a big shock, I know!) about how much we love her and that she'll have a mom and a dad, which she wouldn't have otherwise had...and other rambling. And then I finally abrubtly ended and said because we love and adore her and will always do everything we can to make her happy. I'm such a dork.




And then the judge had us both stand and she said some stuff I don't remember because I was crying and then pronounced that Aspen was now our daughter "forever and ever!" It was so sweet and I just cried and cried and the court clerk was crying and our attorney said she was tearing up, too, but I didn't see that. It was just so special. I just feel so blessed that we could have this day....and all the waiting and worrying and frustration was so worth it. Now next month we'll finish everything up with having her sealed to us and then it really will be "forever and ever" like our judge said today!




Now, a couple funny little things. Aspen for some reason this morning became REALLY attached to my comb and that is the ONLY thing that she wanted to hold on to....she held on to that stupid comb during the hearing and before and after. She's so silly. And also, our attorney thought she took 3 or 4 pictures of our little family with the judge, but when I looked on the camera when we got home, there were not any pictures. Not sure what happened, she must've just not pushed the button. So the only picture we have from today is the one I took with Aspen and our attorney (and Aspen's chewing on the comb!). Oh well. :-)

11 comments:

Lurlyn said...

I am so happy for you guys. What a special day, Aspen is such a lucky little girl to have you and Malo for parents she is going to have an unbeleivably happy and love filled life in your home. Much love!
Lurlyn and the Leifers

Zak and Allysia said...

YAYYYYYYY!!!! It's official!!!! I sat here reading your entry to Zak and kept having to stop because I was getting too misty to see the words you'd written.

We sure love you guys and are sooooo happy that Aspen is officially you little girl!!! Congratulations!

Kimball Family said...

I was thinking about you today, and I am so glad that everything went really well. I totally started crying as I read your story; it is so beautiful. I cannot imagine you guys without Aspen. Congratulations to you all!

Deanna said...

(Okay, now I'M crying!!) :o)

HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY! I couldn't wait to check your blog today to hear the "official" news. We are so happy for you! What an awesome day. I bet you are so exhausted and so relieved and so happy all at once. You guys are the best! :o)

Happy Adoption Day, Aspen!

Nicolaysen's Neighborbood said...

That is SO awesome! Congratulations! We are so excited for you guys! You're great parents and Aspen is lucky to have you!

Mythreesons said...

Oh Yvonne, you made me cry! I am so so happy for you guys and Aspen is the luckiest little girl ever. Congratulations and thanks for sharing everything! I am so happy for you! ( I just said that, but I really am...:)

Meg said...

Yvonne, I'm so happy for all of you. What a wonderful day and memory to have and remember.
It would be nice if all parents had to be asked those questions. It would mean that many more children were raised in proper homes. Aspen (and her soon to be new sister) are so lucky to have you as parents.

Melanie said...

Wow, Yvonne, Malo, you two are the most deserving parents, and Aspen is a very lucky, blessed baby. Love ya lots, Howards

Leslie said...

Yahooooooooooo!!!!! I am brought to tears too - what a lucky, but even more, blessed girl to have such wonderful parents for time and all eternity - maybe she will give up the comb by the time you take pictures at the temple... :)

Congrats to a well deserving happy family!!!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations on finalizing the adoption! I've been checking to see when it would finally happen! I can't even imagine the wait you went through, but it was all worth it in the end! Congratulations to the happy Hasselblad family of 3 + 1!

Luv,
The Caine Family!
Bryan, Jen, Daniel & Cameron :-)

Dave, Arielle, Grayson and Ashlynn said...

CONGRATS!!!!!!! I am sooo happy that Aspen is oficially yours, even though she has been your baby since day one:) I am just soo happy for you- I loved what the judge was asking you guys:)